The Internet Found Out Some Swedish People Don't Feed Guests and Twitter Had A Day About It

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    Font - Maggie Mae Fish @Maggie MaeFish Sorry I can't make our meeting in the morning I found out it's weird to feed your guest dinner in Sweden so obviously I had to read 500 people discuss it until 3AM IsaBoo @chunkimonkii Replying to @Maggie MaeFish hi Swede here This happened to me multiple times growing up. It was always the upper (white)middle class parents of my friends that made me sit and wait (one time in the hallway)until they finished eating. My mom heard about it and never let me go
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    Font - ... AdOxa @adOxa Replying to @missfotografica @chunkimonkii and @Maggie MaeFish This was infuriating to me bc it was like that for me when I was at their place but MY family always was like "guests gets all the best things first" so they would get the last candy at my place and then I wouldn't get anything when I visited them XD
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    World - Malin Rydén @malin_ryden Replying to @Maggie MaeFish Think it is very much class related. Growing up in the countryside (working class) it would be unthinkable to not feed anybody who happened to be around at dinnertime. And if it wasn't dinner time, at least fika had to be offered. However, the middle class is weeeird.
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    Font - Cristina Diamant @MsCris Diamant Replying to @malin_ryden and @Maggie MaeFish My grandfather was a coal miner and always warned my mother that if she was attending a wedding where the families were rich, she should eat at home first, but if the families weren't, to simply go and have fun. There is definitely a class divide.
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    Font - ... J.Ross, your friendly neighborhood Comic Bo... @TheComic Boss Replying to @Maggie MaeFish As a southerner and an Italian American, this shit is literally unfathomable to me. My Mamaw feed EVERYONE. If you set foot on the soil of her yard, she's firing up the stove. She kept lima beans, corn bread, and collard greens at the ready. Not a soul left hungry.
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    Font - jonna @yoyoyoyonna Replying to @Maggie MaeFish Ok so Swede here. The thing about Swedish kids is that they roam around by themselves from the ages of like 11 with their bikes. So a lot of kids are at different family's houses every afternoon (I was one of these over-social kids). Which means, if your kid was over-social- jonna @yoyoyoyonna Replying to @yoyoyoyonna and @Maggie MaeFish They'd have friends over EVERYDAY. It's strange to have other kids at dinner every night. It's kind of a s
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    Organism - jonna @yoyoyoyonna Replying to @yoyoyoyonna and @Maggie MaeFish Obviously, if you slept over you'd get breakfast. But that is a planned stay-over. It's the unannounced hangout that is different. It's a lot of extra food for one week if you already have several kids jonna @yoyoyoyonna Replying to @yoyoyoyonna and @Maggie MaeFish Just consulted my Swedish mother on this topic and her reply was "oh god if that was the case you'd be at every single dinner table in our town" Imao
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    Font - ... Kanto Cabbage Girl @Mystic_Cabbages Replying to @Maggie MaeFish As a Filipino, it would be unthinkable to let anyone leave without offering them anything at all, if it's not close to meal time, merienda would be offered (light snack, juice, tea or coffee) close to mealtime and you're invited for the meal. Cultural differences can really shock
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    World - Helene Andersson @TheHelening Replying to @Maggie MaeFish Hmm I'm almost archetypically swedish (white, middleclass etc). As an adult you'd probably organize dinner together, but you typically went home for dinner as a child. You were often fed snacks though, sandwitches and such
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    World - ... Kantyash @KantyashLive Replying to @MaggieMaeFish That's so crazy to me because in Poland everyone's parents will try to force-feed you no matter how many times you insist that you're not hungry (and some will think you're insulting their cooking if you don't eat) AA
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    Font - Danica Danali Bday 6/8 ... @DANICAXDANALIX Replying to @Maggie MaeFish Regular old American here. My mom would send my friends home at dinner time. If they asked to eat too I'd be like "I can't ask my mom that!" Now as a parent, it's awkward to feed other people's kids because it wasn't a thing growing up. Now I understand it IS a thing, so I do it
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    Organism - maureen ... @maureenw678 Replying to @Maggie MaeFish I am Scottish, grew up poor and everyone who visited our home was fed, hungry or not, meal time or not. My Mum passed away 1 year ago this week and almost our last conversation was her trying to make me eat half of her slice of cake! Beautiful memory. We are feeders
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    Font - ... Devika Misra @Misra Devika03 Replying to @Maggie MaeFish Indian here. Nobody leaves without eating especially in school. My mom would feed legions of my friends and the thought that a kid would have to sit in a separate room unfed while everyone else ate is baffling, just seems so rude to me from my context.
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    Organism - ... Helena Brors @HelenaBrors Replying to @Maggie MaeFish As a Swede, I'd like to point out that this rule only applies to children visiting other children. Swedish parents are afraid that if they feed their kids' friends, said friends' parents will think they're rude. "Nobody serves my child dinner without my explicit permission!"
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    Font - ... ):( @Maoubhao Replying to @MaggieMaeFish As a Nepali, people would pack me food to take home if they had leftovers after the dinner. Everyone in South Asia does that. You go to anyone's house and they will offer you drink first and then ask if you are hungry. And even if they don't ask, they just start cooking anyway
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    Font - ... Heather @heytheretopple Replying to @Maggie MaeFish and @drjulie_b I am a Canadian living in Sweden with my Swedish partner, and we both force-feed people who come over. Well, sort of. He offers food as an option. I ask which food they want, give them a plate then, stare until they tell me how delicious it is. Because that's hospitality, right?
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    Font - ... Dr Auriol Purdie @Auriol Auriol Replying to @Maggie MaeFish I spent most of my childhood in India & was taught that a guest must always be offered food/drinks. As a guest u always refused the first few times you're asked knowing you'd be asked against When I returned to UK, I learned pretty quick that you only tend to get asked once

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